International Kindness Project is today!
The Kindness Project began in 1996 as a way for families to honor their deceased child and to help themselves heal. Now, years later, almost 2,000,000 (yes, two million!) Kindness Project cards have been used around the world to perform random acts of kindness in memory of a child, parent, friend, or spouse who died before their time. The idea is to perform random acts of, usually anonymous, acts of kindness in your community. A little card is left behind so that the person who benefits from the kindness knows that someone’s life and death continues to matter. This beautiful movement has helped thousands of families to heal and find positive outlets for their overwhelming grief.
My husband and I suffered a miscarriage about 9 1/2 years ago and it was one of the hardest things I have had to go through. This was an “oops” baby, I was on birth control so we were done having kids. We had 2 GREAT kids and I had a very good job so we were happy where we were in life. So after we got over the shock of being pregnant, we realized God had other plans for us. Grandparents were excited, aunts and uncles were excited, big brother and sister were excited but then it happened a few months later, the miscarriage. It is something I never wish upon anyone! To this day I still think about our little one and if they are watching over us in heaven. I have a picture from my last ultrasound framed to remember her and the joy she brought our family for the little time she was here. Because of her, I now have 2 amazing daughters because we realized we were not done having kids and that our family was not complete yet. So today is a day I get to honor the joy she brought to my life!
The best thing about the Kindness Project its potential anonymity. Be sure to leave the card and leave without being seen as often as you can! Do something kind every day! Share your loved one with the world!
Buy a meal for a young couple or family sitting next to you at a restaurant. Leave the Kindness card with the waitress to give them after you leave. It is a nice surprise they will never forget. It may even make them consider the mortality of their own children and lessen what time they may take for granted.
Buy shoes or clothes for a family in need.
Bake cookies for a neighbor or teacher, just because.
Order a magazine subscription for a neighbor.
Help an elderly person with yard work or grocery shopping. Many elderly people have a story or two to tell about their own baby that died many years ago.
Visit a nursing home and bring cupcakes. Sit and visit with a few of the residents. You’d be amazed at the loving reception you will receive as many residents rarely receive visitors.
Leave a bouquet at another child’s grave at the cemetery. Let them know about our Kindness Project and your child!
Most electric companies allow individuals to assist families who are struggling with their electric bill. If you partake in the program, send your payment with a Kindness card and let them experience the love of your child.
Sign up to participate in a program such as Feed the Children. Your Kindness card will tell them the story of why you are doing this.
Donate to your favorite nonprofit group on your child’s birthday or death day. Ask family members and friends to do the same.
Volunteer your time at a local homeless shelter or a crisis nursery.
Buy a new calendar for a work mate anonymously.
Donate some grief books to the library or a local support group.
Leave an extra large tip for your food server!
Buy the meal for the person behind you at the fast food drive through or coffee/tea at Starbucks.
Leave a bouquet of flowers on a random stranger’s front door step.
Bake goodies and take them to the police station, fire station, or hospital.
Pay a local teen to mow an elderly neighbor’s yard.
Crochet a baby’s blanket and take it to the hospital nursery.
Premature babies can always use tiny booties and caps.
Buy a balloon bouquet and ask the nurses the children’s hospital to deliver them to a child.
Make a memorial donation to honor your loved one and a friend’s loved one.
Take a box of doughnuts to an elementary school for a classroom.
Plug someone’s parking meter.
Go to the post office in mid December and ask for of the “letters to Santa” that they get every year. Buy and send the gift on Christmas.
Adopt a street or just pick up litter in the neighborhood.
Leave your change in the soda machine for the next person. It’s a nice surprise.
Buy coffee for the person standing behind you in line.
Write to management at places where you get especially good service and commend them (specify names!)
Tape a quarter to a pay phone with a note welcoming anyone who needs it to use it.
Adopt a family through a social service agency, not just at Christmas. People go hungry all year.
Plant a tree or some flowers for a local church. Perhaps offer to “build” a Memorial Garden.
Volunteer at a local shelter, crisis nursery or soup kitchen. This will give more to you than you can imagine.
Volunteer to read to children at your nearest library.
Send your child a note in his lunchbox. Remind them how special they are to you. Or, drop off a sweet card with a little $5 gift card to an local school and ask them to deliver it to a child who most needs encouragement.
Organize a large toy, clothing and diaper drive for a crisis nursery.
Pay for a small child’s candy at a convenient store.
Pay for someone’s toll and/or gas.
Look for opportunities to open the door for someone or give up your seat for someone.
Buy lunch for the couple or family sitting next to you as you pay your own. Be sure to be secretive!
Buy a toy for a child in the store and ask the clerk to deliver it after you’ve gone.
The list of possible kindnesses is endless. Every act you extend will amaze you! The healing, peace and satisfaction which is born from every kindness is undeniable. It is one of the gifts our children have left behind for us to discover.
So what can you do today? Me, you will have to wait and see!